Nobody told you motherhood would be this hard.
Online coaching workshops for mums who feel lost, drained and not quite themselves.
Live on Zoom · Starts Sunday 15 November
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Can't make it live? You'll get the replay for a month.
Is this you?
You're doing everything right, and you still feel like you're failing at all of it.
You keep waiting to feel like yourself again. It's been years.
You're running on empty, and every break you take wears off by dinner.
Someone asks what you do for fun, and your mind goes completely blank.
You love your family more than anything, and you still miss who you were.
So you try harder. Better routines, earlier mornings, one more podcast on being calmer. And every time it doesn't work, you take it as more proof that you're failing.
The hard part
You've spent so long holding everyone else up that you don't even know how to say "I'm not okay," or who you'd even say it to. I know how hard that is to accept. We're the ones who keep everyone else going, so what does it say about us if we admit we need help?
What if not being okay didn't mean you were failing? What if it meant you were finally paying attention?
The series
Each workshop stands alone. Together, they're the full journey.
Workshop
01·It Has a Name
Sun 15 Nov, 8am to 10am Perth time (11am to 1pm Sydney)
See Workshop 1 in fullIn this session
Workshop
02·Refill, Not Retail
Sun 22 Nov, 8am to 10am Perth time (11am to 1pm Sydney)
See Workshop 2 in fullIn this session
Workshop
03·Who Am I Now?
Sun 29 Nov, 8am to 10am Perth time (11am to 1pm Sydney)
See Workshop 3 in fullIn this session
What nobody told you
You've been trying to fix something that was never broken.
Other mums seem fine. You should be back to normal by now. So if you're struggling, you must be doing something wrong.
Becoming a mother changes your identity as much as adolescence did. Nobody gave you a map for it. These three workshops are that map.
Why this is different
There's a ton of information out there: books, podcasts, reels, advice from every direction. You've probably consumed plenty of it. Knowing more hasn't changed how you feel. Doing something with it will.
Short teaching, solo reflection, then small breakout rooms, so you're never put on the spot.
We were never meant to do this alone. Most of us are raising children without the circle of women our mothers and grandmothers had. In these rooms you'll work alongside mothers who get it, and some of them might just become part of your village.
Learning doesn't change you. Action does. That's the only thing that moves the needle.
Your facilitator
Founder and facilitator
For fourteen years I was a professional competitive dancer. I won world titles, and danced and taught in more than 47 countries. Strong, fast, in control. That was me.
Then I became a mother, and that woman disappeared so quietly I didn't notice she was gone. I was sure I was failing, at motherhood, at marriage, at being me.
Nobody told me it had a name. When I finally learned it, everything shifted. I built this workshop to give you in two hours what took me years to find.
"This is who I trusted myself to be, before any of this. I've lived my own identity loss, and my own reclamation."
What my dance students say
Before M.other, I spent years teaching dance. Here's how my students remember me as a teacher.
"Always caring and making people feel welcome… Your approach created a really safe and warm environment for everyone to join in."
"She had a way of making you feel like you could do anything, even when you doubted yourself."
"You appeared in a difficult stage of my life, learning to dance from you helped me in so many ways!"
As seen in
"When you don't know you're in a transition, every symptom looks like proof there's something wrong with you."Read my full story on Mamamia
The honest part
Two hours each workshop, which means asking for help with the kids. This is your time. For those two hours, you are the priority.
A room where we can all see each other feels safer, for you and for every other woman in it. Messy hair, no makeup and a pile of washing behind you are all welcome.
You'll look at things you've been avoiding.
No workshop can undo years. It can change where you go from here.
Five kids, solo parenting, no family nearby, a partner who works away. All real. But if you're waiting for them to change before you can feel like yourself again, you'll be waiting a long time. We start with what you can choose today. You.
But you'll leave seeing yourself more clearly, knowing what you actually need, and with one real step you can take straight away.
Your safety
Breakout rooms are never recorded. The main session is, but anything you share there is never shared anywhere, not even in the replay.
Only the teaching segments go into the replay, and you can rewatch them for a month.
If you're struggling with your mental health, please speak to your GP, or call PANDA on 1300 726 306.
There's no judgement here on the choices you make for your family. Whatever you've chosen, you're welcome in this room.
This is about you, the woman. When you know who you are and what you need, you can make the choices that are right for you, your kids and your family, whatever those choices are.
What's included
The full series, at founding price.
The full series
The M.other Circle
No filter. No judgement. No staying stuck. A private community for women in the middle of matrescence, where we talk about the parts that don't make it to the group chat. If you don't have a village, this is where you can start finding yours: women in the same place as you, wanting a better relationship with themselves in the middle of the chaos of motherhood. It's not a parenting group. It's for you, the woman. Join a workshop and you're in it for good.
Your founding price
$247
Or 4 interest-free payments of $61.75 with Afterpay
Three workshops for $247, instead of $97 each. That's about $82 a workshop, less than a babysitter for one night out.
Founding members get the lowest price these workshops will ever be.
$247 AUD
Or 4 interest-free payments of $61.75 with Afterpay
All three workshops
You save $44, and it's one less decision to add to your mental load.
Each workshop stands alone. Book a single workshop for $97, or 4 interest-free payments of $24.25 with Afterpay.
All three workshop replays and workbooks, plus lifetime access to the M.other Circle on Facebook. Watch in your own time, within one month.
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Get the replaysWho Am I Now? runs Sunday 29 November, 8am to 10am Perth time. It stands on its own, so you can join from there.
See Workshop 3Follow along on Instagram to hear first when the next workshops open.
Follow M.other on InstagramCan't make a date? Book anyway. You'll get the replay for a month, and your workbook is yours to keep.
Bookings close Sat 14 Nov, 8pm Perth time. Pay securely with Stripe.
The process
You'll get your confirmation and your invite to the M.other Circle. A few days before each workshop, your Zoom link and workbook arrive, plus the free DISC test before Workshop 1.
Straight after you pay, you'll land on a short page with two quick questions: how you're going at the moment, and anything you'd like me to know before we meet. Only I see your answers. They help me look after you, and hold the room safely for everyone.
A free, 15 minute personality test. In Workshop 1 we use it to see how your natural strengths have turned into struggles under the pressure of motherhood. Then put the date in your calendar.
Before we start, find a room where you can speak freely, somewhere you could talk about your partner without them in earshot. Make yourself a cup of tea or coffee, warm water with lemon, or a cold glass of water. This is your time to finish a warm drink in peace.
Questions
If your baby is under one but you also have older children, yes. You've already lived a few years of this, and what we work on will help you hold it all, maybe now more than ever.
If this is your first baby and they're still under one, I'll be honest with you. Those early months are about getting through the day, and that's exactly as it should be. This work needs a little headspace. If it isn't there yet, there's no rush. Follow along on Instagram or the podcast, and come back when the next workshops open.
If you're struggling right now, please talk to your GP or call PANDA on 1300 726 306.
Yes. Matrescence doesn't follow a timeline. If you've read this far and felt seen, you belong in the room.
That's okay, you can still book. You'll get the replay of the teaching and your workbook, so you can do the work in your own time. You'll have a month to watch it, whenever life allows. The breakout rooms aren't recorded, to keep what other mums share private.
You'll be invited, never forced. Most sharing happens in small breakout rooms, which feels much easier, and those are never recorded. I do recommend it. So often it's while you're saying it out loud that you find your own answer. The replay only includes the teaching, so the personal stories shared during the live call stay private.
Making two uninterrupted hours for yourself is the first step of the work. Asking your partner, your parents or a friend to take the kids is already you reclaiming yourself. Do it once, and the next time gets easier.
Of course. Each workshop stands alone, and you can book any of them for $97. The series is simply better value, in cost and in results, and it takes the decision off your plate.
They're designed to build: name it, refill, then reclaim. If you can, come to all three in order. If you can only make one, each still stands on its own.
Yes! It's all on Zoom. Each workshop runs 8am to 10am Perth time. That's 11am to 1pm in Sydney, Melbourne, Canberra and Hobart, 10:30am to 12:30pm in Adelaide, 10am to 12pm in Brisbane, 9:30am to 11:30am in Darwin, and 1pm to 3pm in Auckland. Somewhere else? Check the time where you are.
Bookings now open
Three sessions. A name for what's been happening, what you actually need, and the first real sense of who you are now.